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  1. I've compiled a diary documenting the details of every relationship I'll have for the next twelve years, ceasing at my untimely death in 2023.
  2. Really? I thought my comment highlighted the opposite. My humour is rather serpentine. Of course I was not being serious.
  3. I did not say I was offended by the absence of punctuation in the subject line. It just caught my attention. I am more than fallible in the realms of grammar. I was just worried it could backfire were he to have included such a mistake on a CV, for example.
  4. I am not trying to be difficult, but I am curious to know where the research for the bedroom activities and preferences for the global transgender community exists. QA was criticised by referring to 'most' and Tiki,your post made reference to a 'small subset'. I am entirely on the side of anybody who opposes discrimination, offensive treatment towards races, genders or sexualities. Some people may want to answer questions about their identities some may be content to let such issues resolve themselves. I have no intention of having sex with anybody in the near future - be they male, female or vegetable. I believe people should be treated with the degree of respect their personality deserves. If one is going to enter a physical situation with another, then I hope that the politics of such are managed with delicacy and respect and that nobody is coerced into a sexual situation that makes them feel uncomfortable or unhappy. We are dealing with intelligent adults versus the lack of sensitivity or the ability to recognise the emotions and needs of others instinctively, which appears to be the real issue. When I converse with people I make the assumption they are mindful, rounded and assertive enough to make their own decisions. Sadly people, largely men, do seem to objectify certain people sexually and aesthetically. This is fairly low level behaviour. I have certainly seen it directed at women, I have also seen people openly masking their intentions behind kindness and understanding to get something out of people. We all recognise this in day to day life. This is the reason starting an innocent conversation when out will be viewed with motive by most females. I also have little doubt that their is a greater level of misunderstanding about transsexuality and accompanying discrimination. This is disgusting. It is shocking that some people know no better. For the record, I am well aware that a lot of what I've written, is obvious. But that is really the nature of the tangent the discussion has taken. The worst thing is I really only contributed because I was bothered by the absence of the apostrophe in the 'im' of the subject line. Alongside the fact that, this topic is identical to the other one in almost every sense.
  5. In no way was I doubting that takes place, I imagine it is exceptionally common. My ex often used to get requested her cup size. I was just separating the nature of his argument, which seemed to stagger between treatment and the right to question one's own sexual identity. Which I feel are two distinct topics. I got the impression he felt the term homosexual was in some fashion detrimental. But I confess that is largely conjecture. But the initial statement you quoted still remains true.
  6. I think you make some fair points regarding treatment and attitude, StarRain. Many points are equally valid, if one alters the criteria, to genetic females. I am sure you are absolutely delightful and clearly have a soundly functioning moral compass. I'll be honest my reasoning for being here is part of my sexuality, I think that is quite apparent. Which in your eyes renders me homosexual. I'm entirely comfortable with that. I do not consider homosexuality to be derogatory. I simply am not attracted to men in general. I'm sure life would be much easier if I were. One though, would have to question why you came to a transgender dating site if you did not have something within your make up which caused you to be attracted. I am sure one can contrive a number of reasons for being here. I have no reason to suspect any alternative motive. But it would go in part, against some of your own point if there was. People are allowed to question their own sexuality as much as their gender. It is largely for people to make up their own minds what suits and defines them. I accept what you are saying, I don't think it makes one any less understanding or receptive to transgenderism, because there is clearly something distinct in the majority of the people here that causes a heightened attraction. We cannot help our internal dialogue sometimes. It is a fair enough issue to be discussed. I have never requested details as to whether anybody is active or passive or asked questions about their genitals. To be fair, nobody has asked me either.
  7. Unless you are filling in a survey or citizens register, I'm not sure one has to try and define their sexual preference. From a religious perspective I am sure you have already sinned many times over in every other facet of your life, so you're probably damned regardless Diktats that are centuries old are notoriously inflexible. Much like me looking at an old school report for the definition of the person who I am now. That was a bad example because mine would probably be rather accurate. I guess we are limited as to the number existing definitions available. Either that or my own vocabulary is rather lacking. Now I quite like it when girls wear cat ears. I don't even want to imagine what that may say about me.
  8. Chapter 2 Your latter post, which is your own view, is considerably more tangible from my perspective. I think there are a lot of disrespectful people here. Whilst I think that is partly a product of the anonymity the internet seems to provide. I also agree that many people may have generated their admiration through other forms of media, namely pornography. This is probably further highlighted by the fact the site runs at cross purposes - running a dating site side-by-side with escort services may be a fine example of business, but in my eyes does not make a massive degree of practical sense. Possibly leading to confusion and misunderstandings on both sides of the coin. I will temper that by stating, I personally, largely came here to communicate with people (despite my inherent distrust and fear of the human race in general). Yes, this is part of my sexuality, which is something I cannot help. There has only been one person I have even considered meeting, simply because I enjoy who I believe they are. I think that is akin to how I approach most relationships regardless of gender and sexuality, platonic or romantic. As for my awareness of transsexuality, it is something I have -however unusually- been concious of since early childhood. Far before a concrete understanding of gender or sexuality ever took hold. The fact I am rather unpleasant and near incapable of love, is a story for another day.
  9. Chapter 1 I barely remember typing this. Oh dear. In regards to the initial article, which I confess I speed read, I found that it actually failed to make a true point. While I saw many components in it, which I most certainly recognise as being individual issues, it did very little to prove that they were interconnected. Which as a reader leaves me no more - or less - informed, than before I started. Pointing out that one has spent time with people who have suffered abuse and have developed eating disorders, as a result of their treatment within relationships does not quite, do enough to square the blame at feet of the porn industry. Use of an anecdotal account is usually considered pretty weak standpoint from an academic perspective, but it is quite common in journalism and I personally find it perfectly acceptable. But to not even integrate one's own account into the main This is a shame, because I think it is both interesting and important. I would like to know what it is about pornography that would seemingly cause people to suddenly unlearn the vast amount of experience they had at dealing with women up prior to their first exposure to its content. This is where it all falls down from my perspective. It is a separate argument to debate the rights of wrongs of pornography itself. Also whilst, I think the rights of women are generally improving slowly, what is it that has lead to the new levels of disrespect.
  10. This is a painfully complex issue, I think this article skirts over most areas in a rather vague fashion. So after stating that, almost as a form of criticism. I too will skirt around the article equally vaguely. I agree to some extent, that not just existence pornography, but the ready access to it in within the internet era, has some extent changed the way [particularly men] approach sex in general. There are surprisingly many who seem to perceive the paper thin dialogue and infeasible nymphomania, as a potential reality. In turn this causes a portion of females to pander to this image, I would suppose. I am sure there are examples of similar situations, historically, in other mediums. There are also examples of this attitude becoming part of an acceptable surge being drawn in other areas of modern culture. I believe a lot of younger people have also used it more innocently and almost educationally. I was just too old to have experienced this, the internet could only produce crude low resolution 32 x 32 sprites and alphanumeric character displays when I was a teenager, which failed to prepare me for the terrifying reality of such activities. There are many who I am sure, I will optimistically hope the vast majority, use it harmlessly for what seems to be its designated purpose and can entirely distinguish between the content and how one behaves to either their partner or women in general. I do feel this is very much at odds with the other acts of despicable brutality and maltreatment mentioned. While men are not predisposed to carry such behaviour as a rule, there are certainly many who possess such abhorrent characteristics, maybe as a product of upbringing or mental health, and I feel the blame for this can be extricated from pornography entirely. As for eating disorders, I have combated them myself for many years. There are a vast number of reasons why people adopt such behaviours and it sometimes can have very little to do with trying to fit into a certain visual image. While I have had many issues with self perception and self worth. I don't think I ever thought either of these things would be improved directly by losing weight. Maybe it is the process of trying to feel in control of something. What I am basically trying to type, is my opinion that the article condenses too many unrelated areas and tries to shoehorn them all into one idea. In the end it gives up with pornography and goes back the area of media perception. I too would be happy to look like Cillian Murphy, Jake Gyllenhaal, Adriana Lima or that big floaty dog from The Neverending Story films. I am very tired, so ignore any grammatical or typographical mistakes. I have been up all night and it is almost 7am That written, I've never been to university, so what would I know?
  11. I would apply, but I am not a transsexual female. I also don't like being touched. I'm ashamed of my body. Finally pornography makes me ill.
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