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  1. I'm not an expert but being interested in LBGT rights I have found information as follows: Since each Emirate has it's own legal system actions which are considered as non-heterosexual are penalized differently in each Emirate. While Federal law allows death penalty upon "sodomy with a male" in practice the maximum penalty is about 10 or 14 years in jail depending on which Emirate law applies. Since transsexuality is not recognized by UAE law it is being considered equal to cross-dressing and homosexual actions. In a much discussed case in Abu Dhabi almost 30 people accused of cross-dressing were sent to jail for 5 years. As for prostutution which is also prohibited in the UAE three women from Uzbekistan were sent to jail for one year in 2006 after an undercover policeman having pretended to be a client arrested them. So should a transsexual woman be caught persuing an escorting job in the UAE I assume that she would be accused of two crimes and the penalties would sum up or maybe be even higher due to discrimination. We don't really know.
  2. Clearing this topic of distastefulness. The people who really know me are the ones I care about and all your silly payback has brought about is that I had friends sending me messages that I should not care about anything you say, and for once I shall listen to them. It's an exhausted topic of things that have been said a hundred times. Everyone is responsible for his own presentation. The faceless, the horndogs and everyone else. Those who know me well and in real will not be impressed by any of this and will stick to me. The rest is irrelevant and cowards are not to judge. I know the mistakes I did in the past and I account for them. Good bye and good luck
  3. You are mistaken. The original issue has been sorted out already.
  4. Just a question, I hate 'em all D'oh
  5. Even though it annoys me to read another brainless sex-thread which is here for the 100th time, I will comment on this one. The person I loved had died of AIDS at the age of 26...She was the most beautiful and intelligent girl that I had ever had the pleasure to encounter till that point, but intelligence and responsibility are not the same thing, as you see... So do I have to say more? I am the last to advertise for this sort of industry and sure, to some ppl safer sex might feel like a turn-off but if you do not have a certainty of 100% about your partner's health it's hazardous to pass on safer sex. Also bear the lifestyles and former lifestyles of some people who come to this site in mind before you take the risk. Is it really worth it?
  6. It's ridiculous how these questions return again and again. Alright, I admit that it's not half as ridiculous as the herd of half grown-up monkeys who tend to pop up in the chatbox and ask for cam to cam after a rushed greeting - in the better case, and we all know that what would follow if the girl agreed is the sight of some exposed genitals at the place where usually the face should be facing the camera. Over here on this page we're in a certain microcosm, where the primitive horndog resting in 99.99% of the male population is released because the boundaries of moral and respect are being torn down by flashing sex ads covering more than half of the main page, displaying nudity and girls during uncommon sexual activities. Therefore it is hardly surprising how limited and shallow these discussions tend to be, and indeed...this particular one seems to be about the question of settling down with the one type of genitals or the other, which I should not have to mention is demeaning, yet right at this place I feel it IS necessary to mention. Reducing people to their crotch is humiliating and has nothing to do with love. But all in all this site, too, has little to do with love. Love is something that knows no limitation of biological sex. That is why it does not ask for pointing out differences and reasons for affection. There are several problems though that the girls over here are facing, the biggest of which are the ideals of society, ignorance and nescience as well as the fear of the unknown in each case in relation of the society to women who are - so to speak - out of the ordinary. There is just a lack of understanding for the fact that these women not only act and dress like women, but also that they feel, uncosciously talk, gesticulate, think, desire, love, want to be loved, treated and accepted like women, because it's their nature, it's what they are and it's nothing they've deliberately chosen, but something that has always been inside them for they indeed ARE women, no matter where in their process of transition they may be and no matter which letter there is in the sex-column of their papers. Society, however, forces their stereotypes on them and on people who surround them. Wherever one may go, media, elder or even younger people see the ideal women as a petite blonde with wide hips, big breasts and a perfectly symmetric face. Features which symbolize perfect health and perfect presuppositions for delivering babies. Women who for whichever reasons do not fit in the world of a perfect and "fertile" family life not only have a disadvantage but are also subject to gossip and discrimination, more so if the reasons for the non-fitting the ideal are visually obvious or worse are crossing the boundaries of biological sex, which is an easy thing to point out, to be harped on about and to be held against them. No matter how harmless these people are to society, society fears people who cross boundaries, for it does not understand or know the reasons, why they would do that, and they would not care to know about all the depressions which are half-caused by rejection and half by the antiandrogens and estrogens necessary for their HRT. There is a silly fear, that the ideal picture of intact families may be destroyed by those who don't fit in. On the other hand this hostility or at least reserve from the society makes it extremely hard to find a sane, understanding and overall normal partner for life, not only is a confession which sooner or later is necessary, embarassing and painful but also bears a big chance of rejection and aggressive behavior from the potential partner. That is where sites like this come into being. At first sight they seem to solve the problem of rejection and violence because it is designed for them and people who have no problems with them being out of the ordinary. The problem there is that those men who come to this place are just as little informed and interested in their problems, their transition and feelings as any other member of society. They generally come here for some sort of sexual curiosity or even for they have some sort of sexual deviation of desires, or for they are pretentious to themselves not being able to accept their sexual interests in the own sex, looking for camouflage and good excuses why they would not have to expose themselves toward society as homosexuals which would put them in the same uncomfortable position of destroying societal ideals. These "deviant's" -if we shall call them that way out of practical reasons - desires find satisfaction over here in the fact that the girls would not define themselves as women but explicitly state that they are transsexuals (forgive the usage of the word, I'm trying not to use this word for I'm against distinguishing) and even state whether they are post- or pre-op. Would that information be left unclear and would this site be a more neutral place without all the flashing ads then this site might be much less interesting for those who are indeed just interested in the crotch. Worst of all is the dissapointment and pain of those who as a consequence make a business out of their bodies over here for it fuels the flames of animalistic desire and the lack of respect from the male population present here. It's an easy equation. The girls who lost any kind of self-respect and who call themselves "shemales" (sorry again), which in itself is a word coined by the porn industry for a living hybrid sex-object which in psychological reality of male and female minds does not exist, can only result in little respect from those who deal with them, for how shall anyone respect another person, if that person cannot even respect herself? That is why primitive questions like these come up after all. As for me personally I have once had a friend who then decided to go through the transition which helped me understand a thing or two, and when I saw how she felt she did not have to ask me twice for help, when she was looking for hormones while she had still feared to go to the doctor. After several days of looking on the internet I found out all sorts of products, brands, indication, taking, blood levels, dangers, side effects, as well as other information about things concerning srs and fss and so on. I also found a contact who was willing to help my friend, yet I still tried to convince her to see the endocrinologist for safety reasons which she did soon after. Once I had some information about these things my view on many aspects have changed as well. Finally, years later I had a relationship, which started with extensive chatting and without further ideas of building up more than a friendship. We made a real connection somehow, but I could also sense how she was suffering. She then told me a story of how she came to the country where she was living. It was a same-sex marriage and she hadn't started her transition but the mental pressure inside her was increasing to the point where she couldn't bear her life anymore the way it was, so she decided she'd write a letter to her husband telling him about her feelings but before he got to read that he dumped her. She let me read the letter that she had written back then. It was full of emotion, love, pain, fear and I remember how it made me cry. It was among others but predominantly the fact how much love she carried inside her and how much love she was able to give to someone (even though it was not addressed to me) that made made me realize that I had fallen in love with her. Our chats became completely open, more excessive and time-consuming but none of us cared, on the contrary, she would start singing for me (for she was a great singer) and we'd write poems together. Our first meeting was kind of awkward, I take it one of the reasons was the fact that we met at her aunt's place so we hardly ever had a second to ourselves. One night she seemed to be inflamed with desire, while I had not had any intentions of bringing us any near to intercourse for I had figured from her past that she's been used like that many times by men, so it was important for me to prevent her from feeling cheap afterwards, but then it was hard to resist especially the look in her eyes. It was not until then when she was there below me all bare that I came to thinking about the awkwardness or rather difficulty of giving pleasure to her, for there seemed to be somewhat a contradiction between pleasure and rescpect. When you think about it and when you really care, when you really love ur partner, you will find it a dilemma, for you don't know how to please your beloved without putting her into a position where your actions of "giving pleasure" would not humiliate her, when your actions would not make her feel less feminine once again, for she had not had her operation at that time and the last thing I wanted is to hurt her further emotionally. All we discuss here is the stupid question of settling down with one thing or the other but there is little thought to the emotional side of things. Love is not really about one's own sexual preferences or deviation but about caring and trying to make the other feel as good, comfortable, safe and secure as possible. That's why I was just as glad when she for herself had decided she wanted to have the SRS done. I wouldn't have loved her any less if she hadn't decided to go through that for fear, doubts or whichever other reasons but it was a relief to me as well, for I knew it was part of her dream. Our distance though seemed more than unbearable to her and due to that and some other circumstances she decided to end the relationship, although she knew it was my wish to be by her side and support her even if just emotionally. Instead she had a short relationship with a guy who regularly slept with her but in the end told her he'd never be able to love her for she was "born as a man." Her SRS came soon after the end of that relationship and during her convalescence she seemed to have intentions of resuming our contact which I had difficulties with due to the persistent pain from her previous rejection, but the longer it took the more my persisting love came through, but before I ever got the chance to tell her that I forgive her and that I still want her, she died on a trip through Spain. It was AIDS, the doctors claimed, which she had carried inside her for three years. Luckily the little and rather innocent contact we had hasn't affected me - as in I got out of that still healthy. But that's not the note on which I wanted to conclude this. It's just a warning for those who define sex as love and therefore think they have to spread it everywhere. The real point is, that for the purpose of love it really doesn't matter at all what there is in a girl's crotch if you really love a girl. It's one of the last things that should be concerning people's minds for there are millions of ways to be considered how to make the beloved happy first before wasting a thought on that. There is absolutely no reason, and in that point I absolutely agree with ladyannarose, to compare, even just to ask for or give away information about one's bodily features in advance, for that as we see here on this site only just attracts sex-mad perverts and other strange beings. PS: Excuse all the mistakes in the text, sometimes I lose my train of thought in my stream-of-consciousness style and I start rewriting sentences without noticing left-overs of the previous sentence structure. And I guess it's all the more difficult if the language is not your mother tongue...Well, have a nice day everybody
  7. Well, I don't see anyone deragatory as long as he or she doesn't reduce another person to no more than just a sex toy. That would be extremely sad and insulting. Of course the question why I am here is legitimate and comes up regularly and I can't give a one-sentence answer. The short version would be that I've once had a friend who started undergoing her change, yet for some reason she didn't want to go to the doctor at first and at the same time was begging me as a friend to help her if I could. I was gathering information about HRT and hormones, brands and products in general, I was then searching on various communities for people who might have access to hormones and would be willing to sell. I've been thru sites that even spoke languages that I personally don't really understand until I came across someone on a German community where my story moved a person who finally helped out. Soon after my friend decided she would go to the doctor the next time but me and her got into a fight and we haven't been talking for five years. Some years later on chat a girl approached me on chat. She was probably the most beautiful and witty person I've ever come across and we used to speak talk day and night until one day she told me her whole story in tears and with fear that I would hate her. She too was a transsexual girl who prior to her transformation had married a Norwegian guyto get out of her home country. She was deeply in love but he was gay and she was a girl inside. In order to tell him she wrote him a moving letter but before he could read it, he broke up with her leaving her destroyed. The day when she told me her story she sent me the letter and even tho it was not for me, it moved me to tears and strangely I realized that a person who can come up with such strong emotions and so much love is what I've been looking for all my life. And I knew that I was falling for her, no matter what her flaws might be. We met and we spent some time together, which was partly disturbing, partly coz we hardly ever had any time to ourselves meeting up at her aunt's place, partly for her drug consumption and the fact that she was less attached to me than I would have expected or wished, yet in the end she said she spent a wonderful time with me. We were planning to go on a trip and meet up on Crete next time but a few days later she announced that she would go to Crete with her neighbor. Even tho she assured me it would not be anything serious she did sleep with him over there. And even tho she didn't want to lose me or break up with me in the beginning she did after a few weeks. Her friends would later tell me that it was because she was still like a child and that she just couldn't be alone and deal with the distance. He treated her badly. He used her for his fun but when she wanted to know whether he loves her he told her that he could never love her coz she was "born as a man." All this happened without my knowledge for we had no contact at all but at times it was as if I felt that she's not doing well. In the same way I felt a few months later that she going thru something big and it came to my mind that she might be in Thailand having her SRS which before our break-up we were talking about. So I wrote to the clinic and indeed she was there yet the doctor forgot to tell her my greetings. A few weeks later she suddenly wrote me on Facebook inviting me to her home country but at that time I neither had the money nor the time for such a trip...and I wasn't of course sure whether I should go after all after what she has done to me. So I avoided an answer...after that she wrote me just a few times and very briefly, but giving me the feeling that she regretted what she did...then I didn't hear from her for a while and suddenly I read on a friend's facebook, that she has died. Strangely the doctors said that AIDS that she had had for 3 years at least was the cause of her death. But on the other hand no responsible doctor would give SRS to a patient who has AIDS...these circumstances had always been strange to me...And I was clean as seemingly all her partners of the past have been...What I regret tho is that I just couldn't forgive her while she was still alive. I remember one of the last things she told me, when I told her she could still talk about anything to me: "I know how you feel....I can't, especially to you. You've always been nice to me." I will never really know what exactly she meant and felt. Nevertheless the whole experience changed me. I am not here to find anybody. I'm here for some talk coz at times I need it while there is no-one else around and in a way it feels easier to talk to people who somehow know about some things that have been influencing my past and in general to people whose lives aren't all that easy. They can understand somewhat better and won't just tell u that everything's gonna be all right and not listen any further. Of course I've had enough time to get over my ex's death. Still you don't just walk away and forget about everything that you've got to know about some people and their lives. I'm here coz I respect these people and in a way admire the strength they have to go thru all the difficulties in their lives despite a usually hostile environment and I have quite a nuber of friends who respect me in return.
  8. As I have said in the other topic that came up recently where someone asked whether he is gay to be attracted to "more active shemales" I'm just saying the same again over here: Firstly one is gay, if he considers the possibility of being gay when actually being with a girl. Second, he is actually not looking for a girl but for what he would call "shemale," a perfidious and wicked expression made up by the porn industry to exploit girls who by bad luck happened to be born in the wrong body. And it is really sad that the concept of fulfilling homoerotic fantasies of guys who are too ashamed by themselves to stand up and be seen in public with men (and some even with these girls) works. I mean I wish it didn't coz it traps so many girls in this whole thing. And I wish they could get normal jobs as "easy" as anyone else can. Other than that, I really wonder if other men think about a girl's pussy first, too, even before they meet her. Over here obviously men unfortunately seem to be interested only in the sexual aspect of girls. First come their genitals, then....her genitals again...I wonder if any ordinary man who meets a girl in a club or in the streets would ask her, wheter her pussy is f*ckable instead of a greeting. Over here similar things seem to be the normal way of communication. It's about how big is this or that, are you active or passive...and so on. I mean, if I wanna be with someone I first wanna know what kind of person that someone is....and later when we build up somewhat of a basis for a possible relationship and we come close I start thinking about the sexual aspect. Not before I get there. And then it's definitely not about whether I'm gay but about how to make HER happy and pleased WITHOUT making HER feel HUMILIATED by my actions. Who thinks about whether one is gay to be with a transsexual girl definitely misses the point or the essence of transsexuality. Slogans such as "the best of both worlds" are made up by the porn industry, it's not a voluntar choice of a person to be in this condition. We are talking about people, girls who are girls coz they feel this way, and that's how they are to be accepted and respected. The one who thinks of having his way with them because they are different is not looking for a girl but for something else and since there is a choice between male or female he is looking for the male aspect which definitely makes him a homosexual. One who is possible to look past that aspect and see her inner beauty, her femininity which displays in so many ways, movements, behavior, choice of words, interests, the look in the eye, touches and so on...is purely heterosexual, but he surely wouldn't question himself for he knows and is confident with himself.
  9. Firstly ur gay, coz you consider the possibility of being gay when actually being with a girl. Second, you actually are not looking for a girl but for what you call "shemale," a perfidious and wicked expression made up by the porn industry to exploit girls who by bad luck happened to be born in the wrong body. And it is really sad that the concept of fulfilling homoerotic fantasies of guys who are too ashamed by themselves to stand up and be seen in public with men (and some even with these girls) works. Other than that, I really wonder if other men think about a girl's pussy first, too, even before they meet her. Over here obviously men unfortunately seem to be interested only in the sexual aspect of girls. First come their genitals, then....her genitals again...I wonder if any ordinary man who meets a girl in a club or in the streets would ask her, wheter her pussy is f*ckable instead of a greeting. Over here similar things seem to be the normal way of communication. It's about how big is this or that, are you active or passive...and so on. I mean, if I wanna be with someone I first wanna know what kind of person that someone is....and later when we build up somewhat of a basis for a possible relationship and we come close I start thinking about the sexual aspect. Not before I get there. And then it's definitely not about whether I'm gay but about how to make HER happy and pleased WITHOUT making HER feel HUMILIATED by my actions. Who thinks about whether one is gay to be with a transsexual girl definitely misses the point or the essence of transsexuality. Slogans such as "the best of both worlds" are made up by the porn industry, it's not a voluntar choice of a person to be in this condition. We are talking about people, girls who are girls coz they feel this way, and that's how they are to be accepted and respected. The one who thinks of having his way with them because they are different is not looking for a girl but for something else and since there is a choice between male or female he is looking for the male aspect which definitely makes him a homosexual. One who is possible to look past that aspect and see her inner beauty, her femininity which displays in so many ways, movements, behavior, choice of words, interests, the look in the eye, touches and so on...is purely heterosexual, but he surely wouldn't question himself for he knows and is confident with himself.
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