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  1. hi again ,sorry the other message shoots before ending. In that moral analysis cause you put values as the main diferentiator category in a Short Relation vs LTR. values are the category to diference them....i mean some guy looking for STR have one kind of values and someone whos supouse to be looking for LTR must have onether kind of them....At a very first read could sound too comon sense, cause we are supousse to be talking about two completely different units. What i was wondering and opening to dialogue is exactly in oposition cause my cuestion refers of no diference in values ( same kind of crap to be honest) just diferentiated for the selfdetermineted longlastin masculine wish ,jajaja or for how long the supouse LTR men search will extend the so called relation. In other words...when see the famous LTR wrote in an add i naturaly tend to think in just another masculine trick....cause it sound nicer, cause it opens the posibilitie of...of what!!??? i may ask... Kisses and love the nice answer all this thing has bring to the forum Hi Sol, It has been my experience that the term "LTR" often times is a male tactic to lead women astray. There are many others. To protect ourselves, it is best that we take things slowly; if someone is genuinely interested in you as a person they won't rush, they will take their time. I will use this opportunity to expose a user who uses sinister tactics. His screen name is SkyWalker 26. A few months ago, he pursued me relentlessly. Right away, I noticed he had not listed a photo, and told him that I didn't interact with those who don't list photos. That I don't find shame and fear to be sexy. Eventually, he uploaded a photo; however, my suspicions were not swayed. I have been around long enough to know that he was most likely up to no good, but now I'm intrigued. His location was listed as the same location as mine. I asked him what part of town he lived in, and he was even able to identify a specific neighborhood. I told him that I was in a relationship and that he would need to respect my relationship before I would give him my MSN address. Of course he promised he would. Eventually we went on cam, I immediately noticed this guy on cam was not the same guy in the photo on his profile. I think it only took three or four sentences before he was asking me if I would use and abuse him. LOL! I ended the conversation quickly. Since then, I've noticed he changes his location seemingly on a whim. (Currently, he is in Australia. Watch out Ozzie gals!) This is a tactic he uses to lull women into believing that he is located close to their proximity, and that the possibility that something real interaction can take place. It seems like a lot of effort to go through to take advantage of someone, and I can't imagine it does, but maybe it works for him. It certainly did not in my case.
  2. Yes, of course we can know in advance what we desire. If we desire a long-term relationship then we must do the things necessary to bring it into our lives. The problem I think is that may, due to loneliness, and a desire to authentically connect with another, many times, folks will compromise their ideals and principals for the fantasy of something they are hopeful will be real. That's where the trouble starts. In seeking out folks who are authentically seeking real, true, and honest relationships, there are a number of ways to sort through the muck. For example, if a member doesn't have a photo listed on their profile, plain and simple they have something to hide; listing a photo of one's body part also indicates a certain level of disrespect; as does, using a screen name that describes a body part or a sexual act. One thing that is hardly ever discussed is the long-term relationship we have with ourselves. Do we treat ourselves with love, care, admiration, and respect? Once we authentically love ourselves then we can seek out what we desire from a place of empowerment. Until we have nurtured our relationship with ourselves, we remain vulnerable to the devious tactics of others.
  3. Ha Ha! Miss Sol!! I can't tell you how many times I have felt many approach this site as if they were ordering a meal from a fast-food restaurant: "I'll take one large breasted-transsexual, with a large penis." "Oh! And can I have fries with that?" LOL! It's as if they don't consider any aspect of the soul or of one's inner self. Honestly, if a person is interested in connecting only with body parts, how authentic and they truly be. It is better that this type of person interact with escorts, then he can fine-tune his search requirements to the specs he requires with his.."order." LMAO!
  4. The biggest obstacle transsexual women face is not having the same opportunities available to them that every other group on the planet enjoy and take for granted. Many in the transsexual community are shackled and chained to the sex industry because that is the only path available. This is the real tragedy. The greatest hurdles faced by transsexual women are socio/economic. It is interesting, the guys may line up to pay for a cosmetic body part enhancement, a plane ride, or a Chanel bag, but where are the guys who are out there on the front lines fighting for and demanding meaningful change? Look how quiet the room got.
  5. Let's keep it real, girl; most of the guys here are here to fulfill a "fantasy" LOL!; they are here for the penii.
  6. Yes, Tiki! THAT's it!!! I've read some of your other postings here and based on the eloquent vocabulary and the expressed view of matter, I have to say, nice to meet you! ] Thank you for your kind regards; however, I don't interact with those who conceal their identity. Shame and fear are not hott.
  7. Maybe what the guys mean by this statement, is that transsexual women are more accommodating to the male's ideal of what femininity is all about. THAT I would agree with.
  8. I always bristle that the statement: "more feminine in their entire nature than natural born females." While this very well may have been true in your experience, but from my experience, some are very feminine, others are not; same with genetic women. From my observations femininity has nothing to do with trans or genetic status.
  9. Hi ES, I see from your response that you were serious about why you entered this thread. I thought you were being humorous, and responded in kind. I was joking. t. xo
  10. This should have read: "in my opinion, there is some aspect of homo erotica taking place."
  11. My Darling Athina, It is interesting, you embrace the term transsexual as it defines the entire essence of your being; I reject it, as it only describes my path, the early days of transition. You find the term to be liberating, I find it to be limiting and inaccurate. When I use it, it is only used for clarification purposes; with the medical profession, or to describe my journey to a perspective new romantic interest, for example. Do I feel all men who enjoy anal penetration to be gay? For the sake of this discussion, I don't feel labels are helpful; however, despite what anthropologists and psychologists theorize, there is some aspect of homo erotica taking place. Defining them as gay, bi, pan, or.., ultimately is meaningless to me, I simply am not attracted to men who enjoy this aspect of their sexuality. I wonder about your relationships; I wonder about your childhood; I wonder how you define romantic love? And for the record, dictionary.com defines a hybrid as: – bred from two distinct races, breeds, varieties, species, or genera. May I just add, that it is a pleasure engaging with someone who is able to articulate how they define themselves with such clarity. It is refreshing. t. xo
  12. Does being a Royalist preclude one from also being a Boomer? What does YNWA mean, BTW?
  13. Who cares? I do. Please keep the gay stuff on the side of the room that appreciates it. Thank you in advance. well Tiki...maybe I wasnt clear enough. What I wrote solely expresses MY personal beliefs and attitude towards sexuality shaped by experiences and research! it's definitely NOT a canon! this is how I see my self, as a transsexual (NOT TRANSGENDER! NOT MALE NOR FEMALE)...and certainly that doesnt apply to every tgirl...especially if the tgirl considers herself a complete female identical to a genetic female! my point of view goes to show that not all tgirls think or feel the same regarding their sexuality! my case might be rare or even unique but that doesnt mean that I am a less of a transsexual! just beacause I dont see myself as a woman/man/gay, bi, straight but as a transsexual (something like a 3rd gender) doesnt necessarily mean that I exclude myself from the tgirls' space! it's a different cosmotheory , like a transsexual feminism (or shoud i say transsexualism!)...deriving mostly from psychological and ideological premises rather than a sexual (active/passive/vers etc.) or an aesthetic(straight/gay-like) stance . ...having to choose the male OR female archetype is way too suffocating for me...thus, if i cannot associate myself with either how could I see men as straight, gay or bi? words invented to describe sexual behavior & aesthetics directed to the two aforementioned genders!!! maybe the word that best describes a man who is into transsexuals is PANSEXUAL: anyone who could engage in sexual acts with any person regardless GENDER as long as that person fits his/her aesthetic criteria! ...case closed!!! tgirls' lovers, you now know how to label your sexuality...when somebody asks you if you are straight/gay or bi...just say: I AM A (passive/active/vers) PANSEXUAL!!! ..clear enough? xxx QA Well, Queen Athina, there is no need to get all huffy with Tiki's Boom. If you re-read my initial response, no where did I accuse you of speaking for all. I'm quite certain I also included information pertaining to there being a spectrum of sexuality within the transsexual female demographic, and even further elaborated about a specific subset having to do with the genetic female demographic. No where did I infer that you were not included in that spectrum. If you felt that I did so, I apologize, perhaps I should have been more clear. You asked, "Clear enough?" I don't recall asking for a personal declaration of how you express yourself sexually, butt since you went there, I am intrigued by your definition and personal identification as a "third sex." Yes dear, your response was crystal clear, and I would like to learn more about the third sex identity; provided you are open to having such a discussion. I am willing to do this here in the forum or privately; I would enjoy it very much. Your description about the third sex opened my mind to an idea, that until now, I thought was a bunch of hooey. I have used the expression "a male/female hybrid" which appears to be exactly how you define yourself, although expressing it in the way that I did may have come across as irreverent. Until your revelation, I had my own ideas about the concept of a third sex, mostly having to do with ideas stemming from political and economical segregation. If you find that expression to be offensive, again, I apologize and will refrain from using it in this and all other discussions. I am an adult; I'm not perfect; however, I do assume responsibility for mistakes that I personally have made. This is how we learn; no? I am hopeful we can continue this discussion openly, as in some small way doing so may alleviate some of the confusion that seems to permeate this community. I also desire that we cast defensiveness aside and engage with one another in a way that is meaningful and authentic.
  14. Hi Exit, Contrary to what you might have heard; Tiki is conscious. Most of my "research" has been anecdotal in nature, stemming from conversations I have had with members from this site and with members from another transsexual site that is more US based. For every occurrence when a male has asked me how large I was, if I would fcuk him, or give him a facial, although I didn't commit the stats to a spreadsheet, I have almost equally, perhaps moreso heard from the females about their dismay at the number of "bottom boy gay men" they encounter on these sites. With regard to the number of genetic females willing to do perform this act being a subset, I heard this directly from Dan Savage's sex column Savage Love. A link follows below: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=6873328 According to Savage there is a name for the act of females who strap-on a dildo to perform anal sex on their men: pegging. He has also stated that the number of genetic women willing to perform this act is low, and his readers tend to support his observations. As an aside, if you are interested at all in human sexuality, his column is a SCREAM, and often quite informative. I don't know what his credentials are, but he often will use statistics in his column and will rely on "experts" to answer reader's questions with information and without bias. I find it fascinating and encourage you to check him out. I remain hopeful my grammar hasn't spurned you on to wildly partake in other wayward and meaningless TS-Dating threads.
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