A Post Op Dismay . . . .

[TS Asia]

 

 

 

Everyone of us always want the best of everything in our life. We tend to feel unique if we achieved something that makes us different from the rest and maybe we never realized that to some of our peer it has a negative interpretations. Indeed, a post op tgirl has all the reasons and priviledge to live a normal life like of a normal woman and on my own opinion there is no other reasons why a tgirl decided to undergo a very crucial moment that will change her life forever. . . .and that is to live like of a normal woman.

 

Sad to say that since late last year. . . 3 tgirls cause a feeling of dismay to some or even of her friends and other people who knows them. The 3 girls has something in common, 1. they are all post op, 2. they killed their selves for whatever reasons, 3 they are not escorts ( no offense meant for this ). Among them 2 were lucky that they been revived.

 

Because of uncertain reasons a lot of possible causes were heard among their friends like, Severe depression due to hormonal overdosage, that been trigger by emotional instability because of the lover, Drug dependency and overdosage, Family and society rejection, work related, and even feeling of regret that she cut it off. . . .etc. . .etc.

 

I would appreciate so much for your insights and idea about this . . . . If you will have all the chances to become a post op, is it because for your self or you were influence only and why?

 

Guys opinion are very much welcome too.

[Guest]

I find it very sad that any TS girl should wish to do this to herself. As someone who really enjoys the company of 'complete' TS girls, I realise that my judgement is rather biased, and I also realise that it is entirely their decision. I think that one problem is that so few TS girls realise just how special their status makes them. The first TS girl I ever met had debated with herself about having the operation and had decided firmly against it because, in her own words, she enjoyed being special. And she was.

 

I can also understand why some girls go through terrible depression after they have had the operation. TSAsia says that a post op tgirl has all the reasons and priviledge to live a normal life like of a normal woman, and that is right. However, it underestimates the importance of the difference between a TS and a 'normal' woman (if there is such a thing). In my experience, TS girls are often more feminine and more interesting than genetic girls, but that is only my opinion. However, TS girls are also different from genetic girls: by having SRS, they seem to be trying to become the same as genetic girls - whereas it would be better if they enjoyed their difference - and specialness.

 

I hope your friends can recover from their depressions, and go on to lead full lives. But let their stories be a lesson to others.

 

Chris

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[Guest]

I hope your friends can recover from their depressions, and go on to lead full lives. But let their stories be a lesson to others.

 

 

Chris, with all due respect, the view you've expressed is extremely short-sighted and offensive. As a medical condition transsexualism is much more complicated than whether or not an individual is perceived by admirers as "special." Those women who experience difficulty coping after the SRS many times it is due in large part factors having nothing to do with the surgery. For those for whom the surger the culprit, they were not suitable candidates to have this surgery in the first place. I appreciate your sentiment, but I fear it is misplaced.

[Guest]

I just put up a new post about post op / depression!

 

I can totally relate to suicide, its something i have been contimplating much recently... i deeply unhappy and i feel so depressed and unhappy. part of me regrets been what i am. i find it hard to make relationships work or i am judged on the fact in a ts. I know i made the right decission to become a woman, i could never have lived life as a man, hormonally i did not produce enough male hormones and was recomended to take male hhormones for the rest of my life...but i knew this was wrong for me

but now i feel imcomplete as a woman, someting is missing right now and i hope some possitive things come my way before this depression gets the better of me

[QueenAthina]

 

...to change yourself into something u consider to be beautiful is totally understandable!

 

...but come on girls....we r all going to die in 20-40yrs...moreover we r all going to grow old in our 50s or 60s! if u get too much absorbed in plastic surgery hormonal treatments etc...i think u r missing the point!!! be as feminine as u wish, be as beautiful as u wish but u CAN NEVER BE that woman you have been desperately desiring to be!

 

...trans (pre & post op) should learn where to stop! if u have a big male bone structure or your facial characteristics r way too masculine etc....then u have to settle with less! if u r expecting to become Bellucci or Naomi u r mistaken! u can become kontolisa rice or that thin not so beautiful secretary u see every day in that office!!

 

....why do we all have to become Cindy Crawford or Yasmeen Le bon ????

have u really ever noticed how many UGLY - FAT women r walking around u???

dont succumb to the external pressure of stupid "STRAIGHT" men who might whisper to each other giggling :" oh...she is definitely a guy...hahaha"!!

 

come on!!!

 

there r so many men eager to be with us...cd/tv/pre-op/post op! why do we always get carried away by the irrelevant comments of stupid STRAIGHT biggots!!!!!

 

relax girls....even if u feel that u r a female trapped in a male body! do your best to change.....but dont go as far as changing your body and mind poisoning your self with drugs & hormones , changing everything with surgery and ending up dead (...or suiciding) by the age of 35.....because u've realised that u r NEVER going to be accepted as a woman by EVERYBODY!!!!

 

...i have genetic girl-friends who r never satisfy with their appearance!!!

do u really think it's going to be easier for u to change your male structure completly, turn into a female and ever stop worrying about your appearance??? THAT'S A JOKE!!!

 

..if u r willing to undertake all these procedures and get chemicals into your body then u have to be aware of this: beauty and femininity is not only subjective for genetic females but for US (trans---pre or post) as well!!!!

 

 

and...finally.....girls , when u r about to have the ultimate transformation becoming females, u have never stop and think: well, eventually ....i will have to tell this man who is going to be attracted to me or love me...that at some point i was a MAN???

if he is going to be ok with that then kudos to u....BUT IF NOT???????????? what, u r going to kill yourselves for that IDIOT???come on get real!!!!! u still have a male mind!!! just say:

 

the HELL with him!!! i am what i am...and i deserve to be happy!

 

 

 

....yes girls!!! not only genetic females learn to compromise time to time...u should learn how to do this too!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

beauty and femininity is in the eyes of the beholder!!! just choose the right one for u!!!!!! and stop trying to please everybody!!!!!!!! ....have confidence and pride...and some arrogance too....it helps! believe me!!!

 

 

GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF US ANYWAY!!!

 

kisses

A

[Guest]

On the whole i like my face and body, the only thing i have a hang up with is my breasts.I have never been to absorbed with the whole cosmetic surgery, my face ad body are what i was born with, i only have changed my genitals, but, for many many years i have had a problem with my breasts and lack of development. To some people maybe its not an issue to themselves but when it becomes an issue with yourself then something should be able to be done abut it. Its not as easy as saying "get ya act together' or 'deal with it'.

 

As a post op trans i have ben physically lucky, as ive never been asked whether i am a ts even by guys ive slept with,unless i tell them. Past boyfriends have liked my body, its me that has an issue with it! I am not trying to be turned into some kind of 'super model,actually in the early 90's i was a model, i did many catwalk jobs and some magazine work (all 'normal' non ts based work). I am proud to be trans and dont have an issue of people knowing but its wrong to say ...in my mind to say accept what you are and dont have surgery... if life is destroying someone as they are deeply unhappy then sometimes there is no option but to do something about it if you are able or indeed kill yourself!!! otherwisw one could say - well if ya happy with ya self then whats with wearing make up or sexy clothing - is this not physical modification on a smaller scale???